Parents & Families
Format of Course:
Dalton will work with one family per week. The week after each session Dalton will check in with the previous week’s family to see how things went before moving on to working with a new family.
Parents are invited to be courageous, open and honest in the spirit of teaching other parents by example.
Optional weekly reading assignment: 5-10 pages from Children: The Challenge, by Rudolf Dreikurs, MD.
Join an online community of parents who are choosing courage over fear, who are committing to help others–not just themselves, and who are learning to find common-sense solutions to everyday challenges in raising our children.
During the call:
Mute your phone or video when you are not talking. This will enable us to hear one another without lost of background noise. You can use the chat window to communicate as well. Or, if you are calling in rather than video-calling in, then you can email Chris as he will be checking email every 15 minutes on the call.
**FREE Introductory class on Tuesday, April 14th from 6:30pm – 8:00pm PST — email firstname.lastname@example.org to save your spot!
Dates: Tuesday nights (4/14 – 6/9, 2020)
Time: 6:30pm – 8:00pm PST
Who: Parents of children ages 0 -18
Cost: Sliding Scale (see below)
Course Cost Sliding Scale
As a strong advocate for equitable access to quality programming, FCLC charges based on a sliding scale determined by your family income.
This makes it possible for us to work with families regardless of income level.
Family Income Level Course Cost
$0 – $50,000 Pay what you can
$50,000 – $60,000 $30
$60,000 – $70,000 $45
$70,000 – $80,000 $60
$80,000 – $90,000 $75
$90,000 – $100,000 $90
$100,000 – $125,000 $110
$125,000 – $150,000 $150
$150,000 – $200,000 $200
$200,000 – $250,000 $250
$250,000 – $300,000 $300
$300,000 – above $350
It’s Not in the Genes, by Mary Dalton, is the captivating memoir of a young woman, who has the courage to leave her abusive mother in rural Missouri in the 1950’s. In her attempt to escape an almost certain future of alcoholism and mental illness to Chicago results in her repeating the same mistakes she learned from her mother. Out of despair, she accepts an invitation that would put her face-to-face with the cycle of abuse inside of her as she raised a family of six children. Mothers, and fathers, of all ages will find themselves on the pages of Mary’s mistakes and courageous triumphs. Mary teaches us that while all parents are unique, our problems and challenges are universal. Mary’s struggles and search for creative and common sense solutions to do life’s most important yet elusive work– parenting.
About Mary Dalton
Mary Dalton, author, activist, lecturer and educator has worked with thousands of parents, grandparents, teachers and kids concerning the struggles and challenges of raising our children. “Good mothers” have become America’s tragedy in a nation that doesn’t consider that it’s a crime to allow psychiatrists to drug our children. Her common sense, encouragement and down-to-earth attitude help parents to become proficient in the art of parenting and teachers to become leaders in the classroom. “I do not believe that I am any smarter than any parent out there; I just learned things– things that anyone can learn.” Born in Perryville, MO, Mary Dalton, the mother of six and the grandmother of twelve. She lives in Seattle, Washington.
Forward from It’s Not in the Genes
I believe that our children can grow up without being the abused or becoming the abuser. My parents weren’t bad, just ignorant. I refused to believe that abuse was in the genes. I chose to believe in the law of nature and that what we feed – grows. Refusing to believe the “in the genes” theory meant accepting the responsibility for how my children would turn out. It was the greatest decision I ever made as well as the most unbelievable challenge! I wanted to prove that “the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world.”
I believe we are abusing our kids…unknowingly. This has nothing to do with being good or bad parents, good or bad teachers. It has to do with a lack of understanding. We have not yet learned how to replace the old parenting and teaching methods that do not work in today’s world. It is simply because we just don’t know another way.
In the seventeenth century, kind and caring doctors and nurses did not know that they were carrying germs from one patient to the next because they did not wash their hands between patients. Semmelweiss discovered that patients were actually being nursed to their deaths because of this ignorance. Our situation with today’s parents and teachers is similar. It is our responsibility to take care of our children, but without knowledge or intention, we are often the ones who most injure them. We need to re-learn how to raise our children to be competent, caring, responsible and independent adults. We can all learn the art of parenting using common sense, encouragement, natural and logical consequences. We can all learn to throw away our measuring sticks where the goal is just to find out who is first and who is best. We could make a breakthrough in parenting and education as revolutionary as Semmelweiss’ discovery was for medicine.
This unknown abuse of which I speak becomes evident throughout these pages. No matter who you are or where you are from, I hope you will be able to see yourself in me. Our uniqueness as human beings is obvious. However, our similarities as parents and educators are too often ignored. We all make the same mistakes; we have similar problems in our homes and in our classrooms. We have so much to learn from each other.
I do not believe that I am any smarter than anyone else, nor am I a better parent. I just stumbled upon a few things – things that anyone can learn.
In our society, we keep searching for the new and undiscovered. What we really want is timeless: mutual respect, kindness, love, a warm home, enough food for everyone, children’s laughter, hugs, acceptance, sunshine and rain. The truth is…only you and I can change the world.
The FCLC Experience What they’re saying
Clases de crianza para padres de familia y demostraciones de consejería familiar con la educadora de padres y autora, Mary Dalton, MA
Sobre Mary Dalton:
Mary cuenta con una licenciatura en Educación y Consejería de la Universidad Estatal de Governors, Illinois. Una maestría en Consejería y Psicología de Vermont College y un certificado en Desarrollo Infantil del Instituto Alfred Adler de Chicago. Ha enseñado a miles de padres y educadores. Dio clases en DePaul University y Columbia University en Chicago, y en Western Washington University. Es autora del libro: “No está en los genes”. Madre de seis hijos y abuela de 13, una de las cuales asiste a la Escuela Primaria Internacional Beacon Hill. Mary es una activista, profesora y educadora que ha trabajado durante más de 40 años con miles de padres, abuelos, maestros y adolescentes en relación con las dificultades y los desafíos de criar a nuestros hijos.